"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” - Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
It's time to change that.
It's time to set aside any shame or defensiveness and just listen. Listen to understand. We need this personally. We need this in our relationships. We need this as a country.
How do I listen to understand?
You can read more about developing the ability to listen and empathize here.
You can read more about how to do this in the context of race with some of these resources:
Books:
Podcasts:
- Understanding White Privilege and Systemic Racism
- Understanding Implicit Bias
- Understanding the Daily Indignities of Racism and What You Can Do to Make a Difference
Get personal support
You may feel overwhelmed by everything going on in our country this year. You may feel a lot of things you wish you didn't feel - fear, shame, guilt, confusion, denial. It may be hard to get support from people you normally get support from - because of social distancing, differences in perspective, or everyone's margins being so depleted. If you need a neutral place to process and get support, contact me for a session.
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