I approach therapy with a simple question:
"What do you want out of life, and what is holding you back from that?"
This question, and your answers, is where we begin the journey. I look forward to hearing from you.
These are books I recommend to help you on your journey of healing.
Post Capitalist Philanthropy takes us on a journey from the history of wealth accumulation to the current logic of late-stage capitalism to the lived possibilities for other ways of knowing, sensing and being that can usher in life-centric models. These “ontological shifts”, as we call them, are at the heart of the text. Creating emerging realities is not simply about how we redistribute wealth or “fight power”, but rather, how we perceive and embody our actions in relationship to a dynamic, animate world.
McLaren walks you through why you might want to dis-identify as a Christian or why you might want to identify as a Christian reformer, all without any judgment or expectation.
This book is amazing. It gives you practical tools to complete the stress cycle so your body doesn't get stuck in stress. AND it names some of the systemic cultural (white supremacy) values that are creating the stress in the first place, such as patriarchy, the bikini industrial complex, and perfectionism. Multiple people, myself included, have found a significant shift from judging our bodies to living in them due to this book.
This book is amazing. A primer in living a free, full life informed by your inner knowing.
McBride shows that many of us feel disembodied due to colonization, racism, sexism, and patriarchy—destructive systems that rank certain bodies as less valuable, beautiful, or human than others. Embracing our embodiment can liberate us from these systems. Instead of the body being a problem to overcome, our bodies can be the very place where we feel most alive, the seat of our spirituality and our wisdom. The Wisdom of Your Body offers a compassionate, healthy, and holistic perspective on embodied living. Weaving together illuminating research, stories from her work as a therapist, and deeply personal narratives of healing from a life-threatening eating disorder, a near-fatal car accident, and chronic pain, McBride invites us to reclaim the wisdom of the body and to experience the wholeness that has been there all along.
This book is incredible. A reflection on what it means to embrace Native ways of knowing oneself and God.
The seminal book on understanding white privilege and white fragility. In my eyes a necessary read for all white people wanting to do anti-racist and anti-oppressive work.
This anthology is a space to recognize and process the trauma of white supremacy, a space to be vulnerable and affirm the fullness of Black life and Black possibility, a space that gives Black humanity breathing room.
How to break out of white supremacy values of motherhood. You don't have to be the perfect 1950's housewife with home-cooked meals and an immaculate home, as well as a successful career. You can have a different version for and experience of motherhood. One that is life-changing and rewarding, not filled with shame or unreasonable expectations.
An amazing book for female embodiment. Nagoski's premise is that your sexuality is normal, there is no performance factor needed. She teaches you all the myths related to your sexuality and sexual experiences. And most importantly she teaches you what you really need to know to be comfortable, happy even, with your body and your sexuality. If you want more understanding, embodiment, and choices in your sexuality, this book is a must read. (It is also a great antidote to purity culture.)
The Diabolical Trinity not only gives voice to those affected by the harmful doctrine about hell, but also offers a psychological, sociological, and philosophical examination of Hell itself. Most importantly, The Diabolical Trinity delves into the latest research in psychology, neuroscience, and psychotherapy to offer wise principles and healing practices for those seeking to move beyond the damaging effects of such toxic beliefs.
We often feel helpless in the face of so many things we want to change. This book gives you a place to land, to be connected in the work of social change. It gives you a blueprint from our ecosystem of how to effect change on a large scale through small actions. Some of the things this book is fighting for: "dignity, collective power, love, generative conflict, and community."
Through research, interviews, and stories of lived experience, How We Show Up returns us to our inherent connectedness where we find strength, safety, and support in vulnerability and generosity, in asking for help, and in being accountable. Showing up—literally and figuratively—points us toward the promise of our collective vitality and leads us to the liberated wellbeing we all want. It seems counterintuitive that living the “good life”—the well-paying job, the nuclear family, the upward mobility—can make us feel isolated and unhappy. What separates us isn’t only the ever-present injustices built around race, class, gender, values, and beliefs, but also our denial of our interdependence and need for belonging. In response to the fear and discomfort we feel, we’ve built walls. How We Show Up teaches us how to build community instead.
My favorite compassionate guide to finding balance in your type. It is most helpful once you know your number.
This is a fun book loaded with comics and bullet points to get to better know each type.
The Wisdom of the Enneagram is almost like a textbook – a good deep dive, but probably not the place to start.
These are podcasts I routinely listen to and recommend to others.
This podcast is incredible. Anna speaks to so many of the wounding messages and structures of evangelicalism and how to heal. I'm a big fan and I think you should be too.
This podcast is a great look at non-religious, and even non-theist spirituality. They talk about the intersection of science and spirituality, the -isms of religion, etc. Two of my favorite episodes are Lisa Miller and the -isms episodes.
How did you relate to God growing up? Catherine shares how you can heal now based on your relational style with god back then.
In this episode, Helene interviews Catherine Quiring, to introduce the enneagram and how it can be so helpful throughout our transformational life journey, especially as sister warriors and thrivers.
Do practical and emotional obstacles around money prevent you from taking the next steps to level up your private practice? In this episode, Catherine and Linzy dig into how working through those money stories and obstacles has opened up so many opportunities within Catherine’s practice and in her life.
This podcast is such a great dive into power and control in religious settings, the impact, and how to heal. I highly recommend it.
If you are working on healing your inner child, and/or are trying to figure out how to raise your own kids to trust their Inner Compass, this podcast episode is for you. They talk about how to raise kids who listen to their inner knowing, who are brave and know how to trust themselves. And a bonus is that you learn so much about your own childhood experience and attachment.
Catherine shares her story of deconstruction and spiritual evolution.
Catherine shares how to overcome people-pleasing and freeze and appease trauma responses learned in religious settings. Catherine also shares how to develop self-trust and assertivenss.
Have you ever thought about how high demand religion taught you to relate to and attach with God? Have you considered how your learned attachment style with the God you were taught to worship might have informed your childhood relationships and may still inform your relationships today? In this episode, Self-Trust Coach and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Catherine Quiring, shares the insight she has gained from her own journey healing codependency with the high-demand Evangelical God she was taught to serve and worship.
Mix Antiracism and the wisdom of the Enneagram and you have Jessica Dickson's magic.
These are websites I routinely reference and recommend to others.
A place for anti-oppressive spiritual connection, learning, and healing. I am on the Wisdom Council, faculty, and in the first cohort for spiritual leaders!
A trauma-informed approach to understanding and healing adverse religious experiences.
How to discern healthy versus controlling relationships and organizations. Based on Steven Hassan's BITE Model.
Steven Hassan's Model for understanding Authoritarian Control is so incredibly helpful and informative. BITE stands for Behavior, Information, Thought, and Emotion - all the areas that can be controlled. Look through and see which ones feel like they fit for your experience.
Science And Nonduality (SAND) is a community inspired by timeless wisdom, informed by cutting-edge science, and grounded in direct experience. We come together to explore the big questions of life while celebrating the mystery of being. SAND is a place for an open-hearted, authentic connection with people who are drawn together to explore what it means to be a human being, standing at the intersection of spiritual inquiry, science, social healing, and the arts. SAND is a 501 (c)(3) nonprofit organization.
There will always be mistakes and conflict, even in the best of organisations. Therefore, it is important to be able to discern whether a group’s issues can be resolved or whether it is necessary to ‘jump ship’ for the sake of one’s safety and well-being.
Ann Marie is all about making Motherhood work for you, and ditching all the oppressive "shoulds" that get thrown at you from the world at large. Do motherhood in a way that works for you, that brings the magic back.
These videos are ones I frequently watch and often recommend to others.
The First Nations originally taught and embodied the philosophy that Maslow turned into the Hierarchy of Needs pyramid. Their original take on it is so much richer and seems to me to be our way forward for healing our divided, hurting communities.
Information, meditations, and helpful thoughts on your healing journey. The direct link isn't working right now, but you can copy and paste this link: https://www.youtube.com/@catherinequiring/featured
This movie is such a clear overarching explanation of racism over time in our country, how it morphs but hasn't gone away. The link here is for the trailer. I think you can watch the movie on Netflix or IMDb.
This meditation is amazing. I have listened to it over and over. I can be strong and need help. I can be productive and be restful. What are your "I can be statements" that you want to embrace today?
This video is the best explanation I have seen for understanding white privilege. Robin is clear, concise, unequivocal and also compassionate. A life-changing video, and a great primer to anti-racist and anti-oppression work.
These social media profiles are ones I regularly follow and often recommend to others.
“Abundance is not the manifestation of physical wealth. It is the absence of scarcity of the heart.” — PIR AGA MIR As we are all implicated and inextricably woven into the fabric of neoliberalism, late-stage capitalism, patriarchy and structural racism, we need approaches that support us to identify, untangle, and actively unlearn the deep logics we have internalized. We also need methods that support us to open up to the plurality of ways of seeing and knowing to cultivate imaginal realms; to conceive and create alternative possible future(s); and to take practical steps in achieving these realities.