Starting another year trying to create a new you? The one that goes to the gym 3 times a week, eats healthy meals, and gives up bad habits? What if this year, you didn't have to plunge ahead with the New Year's Resolutions, just hoping it will work out?
What if the focus was not on new behaviors, but rather being yourself – truly, authentically yourself?
Sometimes, in the rush to make and fulfill New Year's Resolutions, we attempt to brush past the things we don't like about ourselves and try to make a new version of ourselves. Then our attempts to change ourselves fail, and we feel even worse about ourselves than we did to begin with. What if this year, you begin with noticing. If you learned to be curious about yourself and your needs, instead of focusing on what you feel needs to change in order to accept yourself or have the life you want?
What if the focus was on being real instead of being your ideal version of you?
Living from a place of solid "realness" is much more rewarding than creating an external change. Granted, there might be a little discomfort from being aware of the parts you like and don't like about yourself. But from that awareness, you might actually discover that you can enjoy being you without the frantic need to be more perfect. Maybe the new habits you want to form and the goals you want to reach are still worth working towards. Once you are able to see yourself for who you are, you open the door to who you want to be. The obstacles and resistance to those goals become more clear and the goals more achievable.
Start by being you.